MY OLDEST SON ADAM WAS A PASSENGER IN A SERIOUS MOTORCYCLE ACCIDENT ON THE LATE NIGHT OF 8-19-2015. HE HAS A TRAUMATIC BRAIN INJURY. THIS IS THE PLACE FOR UPDATES.
NEWEST UPDATES WILL BE ON TOP – Thank you all for your Bible verses, and your posts and comments. I read each one, they strengthen me and give me joy and comfort.
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And he spake a parable unto them to this end, that men ought always to pray, and not to faint; saying, There was in a city a judge, which feared not God, neither regarded man: and there was a widow in that city; and she came unto him, saying, Avenge me of mine adversary. And he would not for a while: but afterward he said within himself, Though I fear not God, nor regard man; yet because this widow troubleth me, I will avenge her, lest by her continual coming she weary me. Luke 18:1-5
Yesterday was a nice time with family, dinner with the kids — missing Adam though, and a couple more of my children who live out of town. Has some good time re-reading the accounts of the resurrection, and the many infallible proofs of it, although to this day (as the Scriptures say), the Jewish people commonly report His body was stolen away by His disciples (Matt 28).
10 Then said Jesus unto them, Be not afraid: go tell my brethren that they go into Galilee, and there shall they see me.
11 Now when they were going, behold, some of the watch came into the city, and shewed unto the chief priests all the things that were done.
12 And when they were assembled with the elders, and had taken counsel, they gave large money unto the soldiers,
13 Saying, Say ye, His disciples came by night, and stole him away while we slept.
14 And if this come to the governor’s ears, we will persuade him, and secure you.
15 So they took the money, and did as they were taught: and this saying is commonly reported among the Jews until this day.
But Christ is risen from the dead, and for those of us who believe upon Him, we know that we too will rise to everlasting life with Him.
Right now the facility we are in, is the best we have been in to date other than Barrows. I confess, we are not getting too elated, but staying thankful for little things (that might seem like you should be able to take for granted). But we are not at all taking for granted the courteous manner of most of the staff. We are thankful for the decent food he is being served. Many times we’d have to bring in our own, or bring side dishes, fruit etc. In the end, we would get things that were inedible, and that was on half a plate, with dry lettuce on the other half. We know others have it way worse, but I confess, it is a relief to have real steamed vegetables underneath the lid. Also, even though it is not ‘new’, it is quite clean, you do not smell what you do at most of these places. To be blessed to have his own bathroom, and even bumpers on his bed (so he won’t fall out) is huge. I could list a lot more, but we sincerely thank Him for His provision. It is a little surreal, but the Lord knew we needed this respite desperately. Please pray for the therapies next. We know he needs to settle in and he seems to be doing well there. Please pray for all of our strength, continue to pray for one of his main caregivers, for her health and provision in her life. We love you all, and thank you for your faithfulness.
Yesterday Adam moved into his new facility. We have much hope as we continue to walk forward trusting in Him. Today was another Lucy episode. I guess I’ll just be real honest so you can get the picture.
When I arrived I found Adam in the sitting room across from the nurse’s station. Two nurses introduced me, both very pleasant. I asked where his room was and they directed me to the end of the hallway. We went in for awhile, and we chatted. I looked around at his room and noticed we had gotten a dresser (Jason said they hadn’t gotten one in his room yet). Anyhow, I can’t believe it, and I don’t hold my breath for how long we’ll be allowed to stay in a single, but we have a single room — WITH a mini refrigerator AND microwave!!! The refrigerator was empty and I opened the nightstand drawers which were still empty. I thought it might be time to check Adam’s bathroom.
WOW! His very own toilet and sink. UNREAL! I was ecstatic. It was a bit dirty though, and so I figured while we waited for lunch I’d clean it. The toilet, well, I have to say I was a little dismayed. But I had brought clorox wipes with me, so in Lucy-fashion, I began to plunge in, quickly pulling them out of the container, holding my breath, hot water running (so I could wash my hands in-between clorox flushes). It took several to clean the inside of the bowl, the water was low so I could clean (no, there was no toilet brush — note to self, buy one)… And so I would clean, wipe, gag, and wash hands in between. Last was the base and toilet seat top and bottom, sparkling clean! (Yikes). So all that was left was to do the floor. There were some ‘spots’ let’s just say on the floor.
I had the door propped because Adam was there, but I know the next thing that’s going to happen if I’m not smart is I’m going to fall on my behind. So I hold onto the door, throw some Clorox wipes on the ground and begin skating — back and forth, all around until I felt some pressure and some knocking and someone pulling on the door. She peeked in and said “What are you doing”? (Obviously she worked there), so I explained that I was Adam’s mom and I wanted to clean up the bathroom (following that remark up quickly with the fact I didn’t want to bother anyone).
She didn’t seem terribly impressed as she informed me, “This is not Adam’s Room”. I about died on the spot, but covered it up by saying, “WHAT???? Why didn’t you stop me before I cleaned the whole restroom?” (She was not amused, she just pointed out his room, and we went over there). Another person came in and she had already heard and thought it was hysterical — in fact I had done such a good job, she told housekeeping they didn’t have to clean it that day lol! I am pretty sure I heard muffled chuckles as I went home today 🙂
Thank you for all your prayers, seriously, we sure need support at all times and are thankful for you all. Adam is extremely tired, he is probably adjusting and so we are looking forward to what is ahead. His one caregiver (my good friend) is out of the hospital, thank you for praying for her, for her strength and peace while she is down. God bless and keep you all.
God is a righteous judge, He cares about our troubles, He is a Man of Sorrows, Acquainted with ALL of our grief. Let’s try to continue to go to Him for everything, sometimes we even need help with that, prayer…
I was out of town when I was informed late at night that Adam’s facility was being shut down by the state. I think back to the forced move a little over a year ago from Barrows. I sure didn’t want to go back to a place like Adam had been in, and even though this place was better in some ways then the first SNF, there were so many ways it was just horrible. But we made do, we had friends there, some who came and went we loved, and some who just didn’t care.
We ‘believe’ we have found a place for Adam. Jason went out and looked the following morning. I came back kind of exhausted from my trip. (Please pray for the elderly woman I went to see, I was able to clearly share the gospel with her, and she agreed with me on each point, so pray that she did believe. Her husband didn’t want to ‘hear’, but he wanted to speak about any religious artifact, shroud of Turin, anything that he felt was ‘real’ in ‘religion’ etc. I listened and prayed. Please also pray for him if he comes to mind.)
I started praying when I heard, not a thing I could do until my flight the next day and the long drive home (or at least long for me). Jason says this place is better (I didn’t doubt that most had to be better), and yet I pray that this is the place for Adam, one where he will not get screaming roommates, or try to have infectious patients placed with him.
Please also pray for the staff at the other place who are losing their jobs, and will not know what to do. Pray for the other patients, to go where there may be a laborer. Pray that we might have more opportunity to share the love of Christ, (if He can love me, He can and does love everyone else). Pray for opportunity, and that Adam may flourish in this place. Please especially pray for our help, our friends, who tirelessly are with Adam day and night. One who is in the cardiac unit as we speak, I ask a special prayer for her, God knows who she is.
We love and appreciate you all, and want to ask (if just one of you) the most important question. Are you sure, very certain if you died this moment, you know where you will be? It happens in the blink of an eye. We don’t want to lose you, (Please read here if you’d like to know more)
Or read here if you’d like to see the note I wrote my husband Jason years before when he did not believe (Dear Jason-changed to John).